What happens when being “the capable one” becomes exhausting?
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Do these descriptives sound familiar?
Dependable
You’re the one everyone counts on to handle things when they get tough. The steady one who isn’t “needy”. And you’re exhausted.
Nice
Agreeable; likely to go along with everyone else. Maybe you feel guilty saying “no” or replay conversations in your head; you worry about disappointing people.
Driven
You like a challenge. And you have trouble relaxing. You know you can’t keep this pace, but you feel guilty prioritizing your needs.
“You have been criticizing yourself for yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” - Louise Hay
You may be dealing with:
Perfectionism
People-pleasing
Overthinking
Anxiety
Difficulty setting boundaries
Fear of disappointing others
Shame
Low self-trust
Relationship patterns that leave you emotionally exhausted
Constant responsibility for other people’s feelings
Difficulty slowing down
Feeling disconnected from yourself
Sometimes these patterns have roots much earlier than we realize.
We can work on what’s underneath the pattern.
Let’s get started. Click here to find out how therapy can help.
Rather than simply teaching you another strategy for managing anxiety, we’ll explore where these patterns came from and why they continue to show up.
When appropriate, EMDR can help process experiences that shaped beliefs such as:
“I have to get everything right.”
“I can’t let people down.”
“My needs are a burden.”
“I have to handle everything myself.”
“If I make a mistake, something bad will happen.”
Therapy can help you develop a different relationship with yourself—one based less on fear, performance, and responsibility and more on self-trust and choice.